3. Jesus included an exception on behalf of the innocent spouse. “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness (porneia), causes her to become an adulteress” (Matthew 5:32; see also Matthew 19:9). This shows that a married person who divorces a sexually immoral spouse does not cause that spouse to commit adultery,since the offender is already guilty of adultery. Nor does the spouse who has been sinned against commit adultery upon remarriage. It should be noted, of course, that “marital unfaithfulness (porneia)” often implies repeated immorality so this exception should not be considered a command to end a viable, salvageable marriage marred by one tragic indiscretion.
Moreover, this view is difficult to maintain in light of other passages that emphasize the conjugal rights and obligations of husbands and wives (as in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Most Protestants therefore have understood that the exceptions spoken by Jesus do indeed provide for remarriage and free the innocent party ofany charge of adultery. But, in no case does Jesus command divorce or remarriage. They are merely permitted under this condition.
If the UK is the same you would be able to file divorce proceedings there after one year.
You could file proceedings in Canada, and if the case is not a contested one you could proceed by way of affidavits and never have to appear in Court.
If you just leave Canada without doing anything you will remain marriaed and not resolve anything.
I'm sure this is paranoia on her part, but he seems to have convinced her that he will be made aware of any such correspondence, as he is also a lawyer.
I would much appreciate your clarification on the following:
� with regards to the children, will she be required to remain within a certain distance of their father after a divorce?
� what is the likelihood of her losing custody of the children considering that he is the sole income earner?
Any advice you can offer would be very much appreciated.
107, § 1.; § 1519 Modification or termination of decree or order; termination of alimony; enforcement of alimony order. (a) A decree or separate order entered under § 1518 of this title may be modified or terminated only as follows: (1) Support for a child, only as provided in Chapter 5 of this title, or otherwise; (2) Custody and/or visitation of a child, only as provided in Chapter 7 of this title, or otherwise; (3) Property disposition, only upon a showing of circumstances that would justify the opening or vacation of a judgment under the Rules of the Superior Court of this State; (4) Alimony or any other relief awarded, only upon a showing of real and substantial change of circumstances. (b) Unless otherwise agreed by the parties in writing and expressly provided in the decree, the obligation to pay future alimony is terminated upon the death of either party or the remarriage of the party receiving alimony. (c) Any alimony order entered pursuant to § 1512 of this title shall be enforced in this State exclusively by the Family Court in the county wherein the respondent resides or is found, or in the county where petitioner resides if respondent does not reside and cannot be found in this State, regardless of whether such petitioner was the petitioner or the respondent in the divorce action, and such Family Court, on proper showing of either of such petitioner or such respondent or on its own motion, may modify or terminate support obligations formerly decreed by the Superior Court.
2. The office of elder is open to remarried persons who were divorced and remarried prior to conversion, or as a result of spousal infidelity, or desertion of a believer by an unbeliever. (Since local assemblies maintain the prerogative of setting their own standards for the office of deacon, that standard is not addressed in this paper [See Bylaws Article IX, Section 5, Divorce and Remarriage]).
Sexual license (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:24; 1 Corinthians 6:9,18; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Revelation 2:21, et al.), easy divorce (1 Corinthians 7:12-16), and remarriage, often legally mandated, posed enormous challenges for the emerging Church and its thousands of converts. Nonetheless, these new believers were affirmed as new creations in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17), forgiven ofall their sins (1 Corinthians 6:11; 2 Corinthians 5:19), and integrated into the Church.
These a believer carries over from his past and becomes in their eyesanunforgiven, "perpetual adulterer"—unfit to preach, minister,and in somecases even join a church!
b. RemarriageLow standards on marriage and divorce are very hurtful to individuals, to the family, and to the cause of Christ. Therefore, we discourage divorce by all lawful means and teaching. We positively disapprove of Christians getting divorces for any cause except fornication and adultery (Matthew 19:9). Where these exceptional circumstances exist or when a Christian has been divorced by an unbeliever, we recommend that the question of remarriage be resolved by the believer in the light of God’s Word (1 Corinthians 7:15,27,28).
2. Jesus taught that divorce and remarriage, without biblical cause, was adultery. It constituted a sin against the covenant of the first marriage (Matthew 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:11,12; Luke 16:18). In these passages, Jesus appears to be speaking to those who willfully initiated divorce without having biblical grounds to do so. However, Jesus recognized that the basic problem is divorce itself, because divorced persons could be expected to remarry.
4. In addressing the ideal nature of marriage, the church must also recognize that among its most needy, and yet potentially most fruitful, congregants are many who are already divorced, possibly remarried, and who struggle with guilt and condemnation from earlier marital failure. It is imperative that the church demonstrate to them Christ’s love and grace.
This led him to the erroneous conclusion that in the Matthean exception clause was a reference to adultery as justification for divorce and remarriage.
In all humility, the church today, as did the Early Church, struggles to understand and faithfully to apply the teachings of Scripture as it evangelizes and nurtures people in a secular,materialistic, and sensual environment. Realizing there is much we do not know about the ways Jesus and the Apostles would have handled every problem raised by divorce and remarriage, we of the Assemblies of God offer this paper in a sincere effort to affirm and practice the truth ofScripture while also endeavoring “to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:3).